One kiss today may not lead to sex today, true.  But, it definitely plants seeds for a future harvest of that nature and, “God is not mocked. Whatsoever a man sows, that shall He also reap.” (Gal. 6:7)  The Holy Spirit began to minister to me about a relationship I needed to sever while away in college. Although I was not technically having sexual intercourse with him, I had mastered the art of ‘feeling good’ without having sex.  In other words, I would call it satisfaction without penetration. I could still walk away from his bedroom with my ‘virgin card’.  Many Christians have adopted this self-destructive, hypocritical pattern.  I was still out of the will of God, despite still being a ‘virgin’ by technical standards.  I had twisted, distorted guidelines.  As my Pastor told me, the law of diminishing returns says that “when something ceases to accomplish what you want it to accomplish, you search for more.”  In other words, the kissing game grew old and boring for me with time, and a new desire to progress onward from kissing to touching, rubbing and intercourse, grew stronger.  Without warning you may find yourself proceeding from one level to the next searching for more satisfaction and gratification.  It is a very deceptive path into sin.  I have been there!

Proverbs 14:16 states, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the ways of death and destruction.”  This information may seem totally radical or maybe ridiculous, but in all honesty your understanding of this process and its design to lure you off track has the ability to protect you from straying from God’s best plan for your life.  Proverbs 6:27-28 states, “Can a man take fire into his bosom and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared?”  The average teenager or single person always says, “I can handle it.”  That is exactly what I said.  “I can handle a little kissing, or…I can handle a little rubbing, every now and then… no big deal.”  However, to God, it is a big deal!  Truly, your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit if you are a born-again believer of the Lord Jesus Christ.  1Corinthians 6:17-20 states,

“But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.  Flee sexual immorality.  Every sin that a man does is outside of his body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”   

I went from ‘kissing to rubbing to humping’ to achieve some level of satisfaction in my ‘flesh’, without realizing that the ‘flesh’ is never satisfied.  

Let me be real.  If you are saved and single, sexual intercourse, sexual acts, sexual perversion and ‘the like’, are dangerous grounds for you.  The Father’s loving heart toward His children is to prevent STD’s, unwanted pregnancies, psychological/emotional damage, ungodly attachments, derailment of divine purpose and unnecessary ‘drama’ in your life.  The enemy would love an open door of opportunity through your sexual experimentation, to steal, kill and destroy (John10: 10) any aspect of your life.  He will destroy your dreams, goals for higher education, professional endeavors, and your virginity while infecting you with HIV, all in one blow.  Did you know that repeated abortions make a woman more susceptible to miscarriages and failed pregnancies, later in life?  Did you know that some STD’s can cause sterility and affect your ability to conceive children later in life?  The devil would love to silence your testimony for Jesus Christ.  Nobody listens to a hypocrite.  Nobody listens to a freak.  It is amazing to me that this society spends millions of dollars promoting sexual education, STD education, condom distribution, and contraceptives without truly highlighting the fact that you could solve this dilemma with abstinence.  Everybody is not doing it!  Holiness, the sexual revolution, is what I live by. God’s way is always best.     


This excerpt was taken by permission, from The Best Sex of My Life: a guide to purity, by Dr. Lindsay Marsh Warren. To obtain a copy of the book, or to learn more about her sexual purity outreach, Worth The Wait Revolution, Inc, visit www.iamworththewait.com, or email her directly at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it . (301-505-5000)